Lack of communication when dating
Sometimes we omit things to protect our partner’s feelings or because we’re worried they won’t like us as much if they know how we really feel.These little white lies may not seem very important on their own but they tend to build up and can stop intimacy and trust from developing.Ask for clarity if you don’t understand what they’re asking and reflect back what you have heard. Not listening Listening is as important an aspect of communication as speaking is.It’s frustrating when you feel like your partner isn’t listening to you and it can affect the bond between you.
These cognitive distortions sometimes make it difficult to see other points of view. When someone comes at you with criticism, it’s easy to feel that they’re wrong and get defensive.
While it’s good to be flexible and open-minded, repressing your true feelings for fear of your partner’s response often results in a big blow up out of proportion to the final trigger which causes it. Even if it makes you feel vulnerable it’s important to be as honest as possible with your partner about your feelings.
Don’t expect them to be able to read your mind, most people can’t – if you say you’re happy about something then they’ll assume that you’re telling the truth.
We talk a lot about our point of view to get the other person to see things our way.
This is understandable, but too much of a focus on our own desire to be understood above all else can backfire.